Posted by: Cathi Brese Doebler | January 14, 2010

More consideration

Another way to be considerate of your spouse is to sympathize with their doubts and fears. Everyone has doubts and fears, and our spouse is often the one with whom we want to share those doubts and fears. Talking to your spouse about the parts of life and death that are most challenging and frightening can help you feel like you have support.

“We who are strong have an obligation to bear with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves. Let each of us please his neighbor for his good, to build him up.” Romans 15:1-2. Our spouse is also one of our “neighbors”, a person we should build up by providing love and support.

Here are some questions to ponder regarding your spouse’s doubts and fears:

  1. Do I know what my spouse’s doubts and fears are?
  2. How do I make those doubts and fears worse?
  3. How do I make those doubts and fears seem less severe?
  4. How do I build up my spouse?
    • Do I point out his/her strengths?
    • Do I thank him/her for contributing to my life?
    • Does my spouse know that I see how he/she makes a difference for our family, to me, to our children?
  5. How can I do a better job of sympathizing with my spouse?

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